Update: About 2 days ago my husband started acting more..."normal"....
He has been TALKING as if nothing happened. He has had energy in his voice. He seems to think that it is just this past month that has been bad....
He thinks we should "work on things" and that we "need space."

He went over a month....refusing to talk...being high...just laying there...watching me SOB...telling me to "go away" when I cried....not responding...continuing to spend money on whatever he wanted...etc etc etc...

And now...exactly what I expected would happen...he is suddenly acting "normal"....so of course now I am out of fuel. I've started building a wall for myself....detaching...and that wall may be over 3/4ths of the way built. I don't know if I have it in me.

I still maintain that he needs to move out...and I don't know exactly what that means for US...but....it's way more than just "some space." Are you kidding me?

It's hard to explain this without all of you having been flies on the wall in our house....wow. Someone acts like that and then suddenly "snaps out of it"...

I'm sorry. I don't buy it. It's not fair. It doesn't work like that.