Is finding a job somewhere new an option? My cousin was in DC for some years, then New York, then finally met her fiance in Boston. I know she kept on changing it up wanting a new environment with new opportunities. How limited is your current town/community?

I'm not really a proponent of online dating--never worked for me--but there are now sites that help you connect to same-sex friends. Why don't you try using them to meet some like-minded females? Having one good friend makes such a difference. Are there any childhood friends you could try reconnecting with?