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Default Sep 11, 2018 at 09:35 AM
 
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Originally Posted by sadplant View Post
Things have been hard for him at home, he's being pressured to balance single issue out at home while simultaneously being neglected emotionally.
He's also having to deal with verbal abuse from his father because of his situation with university.

I can see that it's really taking a toll on him psychologically. My boyfriend is extremely selfless and always does things for others but never talks about his own problems. I try getting him to open up but he just doesn't know how to, which I completely understand.

But recently he's started self-harming and constantly jokes about his death.

We've had several fights recently and I think he's starting to believe that I don't really care about him either, and that he sees himself as a burden to me.

I'm so worried about him, I love him so dearly that I cried so much yesterday thinking about him being all alone, hurting himself like that. I want to be there for him and show him that I do care, so much.

But I don't know how. Sometimes I feel like even if I do get him to open up, I say the wrong things.

No therapy though, I know he'd never even consider that. And it's not affordable here anyway.
Just keep on loving him,I know how hard it is for you.If you keep telling him how much you love him maybe that will help even give him a hug most of all make sure he knows that he can talk to you anytime.See I am all alone and I really dont have anybody to talk to except for my one girlfriend she and are very close,we tell each other everything ,she knows about my anxieties and mood disorder bipolar and depression ,she doesnt understand why it happened neither do I but she is always here for me, I lost my husband 14 years ago he was only 51 and he was always there for me even though he waas really sick.he had parkenson's.So I know how much you are hurting because when someone we love is hurting we hurt too. You seem to be a very compassionate person.and that is a good thing.
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