Sep 13, 2018 at 05:35 AM
Because we have different parts that come forward depending on what triggers them. Sometimes my child parts are in the drivers seat and I want my T as a father and sometimes my teenage/ early adult part have taken over, who learned from a young age that if a man did something nice for me that I repaid them with sex, and then there is my adult self that finds him intellectually stimulating and that triggers my libido.
I flip all over the place day to day.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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