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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
Because we have different parts that come forward depending on what triggers them. Sometimes my child parts are in the drivers seat and I want my T as a father and sometimes my teenage/ early adult part have taken over, who learned from a young age that if a man did something nice for me that I repaid them with sex, and then there is my adult self that finds him intellectually stimulating and that triggers my libido.
I flip all over the place day to day.
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Yes, it's different parts looking for something different. Plus according to...Freud I think? There's a point in early childhood development when we're in love with one (or maybe both?) of our parents. For me, too, I think with ex-marriage counselor, I kept thinking how I wanted him to hold me. So it's like, to my adult brain, "Oh, that must mean I'm attracted to him and want him romantically and/or sexually." When "I want him to hold me" could have just as easily been coming from a child part. It's very confusing, I agree (I had both paternal and erotic transference for my former marriage counselor).