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Default Sep 24, 2018 at 05:27 PM
 
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Thank You once again for Your response. I've bene thinking about it and maybe all of the things I've written seem so exagerated, because I putted all of the "strange" situations together - but we have plenty of "normal" sessions also, and I really still think that he is a good specialist who happened to help me a still is helping me a lot... You have to understand that I am not able to quit now, because I need therapy and I need his support exactly in the same way as You needed it during Your therapies. And I really trust that he is trying to help me. I now things he is saying or doing sometimes aren't politically correct, but I get where does it come from, because we really like each other and get each other a lot - it's not because I have maritial problems that I think so, it really is like that. And even if I met him in some other place, not as a therapist and a patient, I believe it would be like that. But we are in a therapy so I have to live with it and try not to focus on a tensione between us, but on a help he is offering me, mostly how to be myself at my home and in my marriage that is really difficult - not because of him, because it is like that from The beginning....
It's hard when you are having issues with your partner and your marriage. If your therapist is the only person you can talk to, I think it intensifies the relationship massively.

You know he's crossing boundaries, otherwise you wouldn't have asked here. I can understand that it might feel nice at the moment but the situation might cause problems further on down the line. What concerns me is that either he doesn't have a good understanding of what his role is in your life and what his job is (maintaining boundaries is a big part) or he is consciously being unethical and possibly even grooming you. A bit of flirting is ok but your situation seems to be developing into more than that. Not ending the session until you got up to go is a big red flag. What ever is happening, he's not being very honest about it.

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