Oh, and he and I knew each other many years ago. We actually hung out in the same circle of friends and still have many mutual friends. They all swear he's a great guy. The only thing one of them said to me is that he heard previous girlfriends say he would get distant - almost like having an affair but they knew he wasn't. They said it was like he had a secret he'd never tell them. That's exactly how this is making me feel right now.