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Default Sep 28, 2018 at 03:56 PM
 
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Originally Posted by little turtle View Post
triggering...
I have been married 63 years...almost 64....
my marriage causes me the most stress...
I am very sensitive to anything my wife is saying...
i see my wife as being very critical ....
she is frequently making statements about me...
and mostly i perceive these as critical...

just this last year i have been speaking up...
i feel much better about myself...
(((((( little turtle ))))))

I’m glad speaking up has helped you feel better. Most of the abusers in my life simply ignore me and continue with the abusive behaviour if I speak up

I think that’s the mark of an abuser. They continue despite a clear request to stop. . I wish I’d known that years ago, I might not be so ****ed up and wishing I was dead sorry about the triggering post. It’s been a horrible day.

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