Hello Apester: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to PsychCentral. I hope you fnd PC to be of benefit.

Here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that may be of some help. Not all of them address your specific situation. but they all address the topic of being a caregiver:

Self-Care for Depression Caregivers

Caring for Yourself When You're a Caregiver | Weightless

Caring for Yourself When Caregiving

Caregiver Burnout: The Importance of Self Care

3 Self-Care Tips While Loving Someone With Depression

https://psychcentral.com/blog/caregi...ouse-yourself/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...ssion-fatigue/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/compa...dium=popular17

My best wishes to you both...