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Default Oct 03, 2018 at 12:10 AM
 
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Originally Posted by Optimistic01 View Post
A year ago yesterday I got engaged only to break it off a month and a half later. Since then we've been on again, off again trying to work things out. One minute he loves and adores me and the next I'm being called evil, being accused of being unfaithful and at times called cruel names. My words get twisted during these episodes to the point where I no longer want to speak up for myself and then almost as unassumingly as these episodes appear they disappear and the person I fell in love returns. I've done a lot of reading and research because I believe he's a good person deep inside and I believe he has borderline personality disorder. I've tried tip toeing around my belief so as to not upset him or cause an episode and to be honest I don't think he realizes something is wrong. I'm writing out of hope someone else has or is experiencing this very thing and can perhaps shed some light. I'm clinging on to hope but it dwindles by the moment as I just don't know how much more I can take. It's heartbreaking.
I really feel for you, I have been in your shoes

Unfortunately in the decade or more that we have been together my partner hasn't stopped the 'evil rants' in fact I am beginning to see that what he subjects me to is abuse. He does have spells when it happens less but it also escalates to me being kicked out of our home (His House). There are times when we are happy and he treats me like a princess but he also knows how to hold a grudge something that happened 8 years ago can be thrown in my face like it happened this morning and he can twist things so much so that I find myself apologising for things I haven't done.

I'm not saying don't continue your relationship but think really hard about whether you can deal with his behaviour continuing as it is for potentially the rest of your life.

Take care of yourself

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