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hislua · Oct 09, 2018 at 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway

I am so extremely sorry for what you went through when you were a teenage girl.

As a survivor of abuse in therapy myself, it pains me to read stories like yours, and it pains me especially because I know that more often than not justice doesn't get served in those cases.

Unfortunately, if you don't have any evidence of what went on during your sessions with him, your report will not produce a desirable outcome (which is to hold the abuser accountable). You can still report, but without an evidence nothing will be done to him. The only reason it might be worth reporting is if you feel the fact of reporting, in and of itself, will help you to deal with your pain somehow. Otherwise, if you are hoping for justice to be served, it's not worth it.

Just out of curiosity, did you ever tell your parents about what he was doing with you? Not that it matters. It's just if you started therapy at 14, then it must have been by your parents initiative. And, usually, parents communicate with the therapist about their child's progress. So, I am just curios if your parents were involved in your process at all.

I don't know if you have reached out for support here or in other places, but, at this point, getting whatever help you need healing your trauma may be the best you can do for yourself.

thank you. i appreciate the kind words. i'm afraid you're right about justice not being served in situations like this. i have yet to decide whether or not i feel like reporting would give me some satisfaction or emotional relief. i'm leaning more towards no, as i know it's a tedious process and it'll probably just get me more frustrated being told that nothing can be done.

i have been seeing therapists since i was very young. after departure from an outpatient program at 14, i decided i wanted a new therapist. my parents were involved to an extent. sometimes my parents would come in at the beginning of a session and just share their concerns. the majority of the sessions would just be him and i, though. after they left the room, he would always kind of pull this "screw them" card. it's hard to explain. he thought they were annoying, and of course as a teenager i thought they were to. he usually discouraged me from really being open with them, and only wanted me to be open with him. and i was. after i gave him a note and said i was leaving, i told my mom about everything that had happened over the years. she said she always knew something was off, and that he was immature and kind of snarky, but didn't know the extent to which he was being inappropriate and crossing boundaries. my dad still doesn't really understand or believe it i think, as my therapist was very good at putting on a show for my parents. it's weird. my mom says now that she wishes she knew what was happening during those years. i have a much better relationship with her now that he is out of my life. he wanted me to believe my parents were the enemy, and i allowed that. i know now that they care about me far more than he did.