I hope this is the right forum for this thread...
I'd like to start a thread for those who are healing from narcissistic abuse. Ideas and encouragement.
Please not for stories of the abuse, but strategies for moving past it and getting on with our lives in a much more fulfilling way.
If you are unsure what this type of abuse is all about, here are a few helpful articles...
11 Signs You're the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse | Recovering from a Narcissist
Defining Narcissistic Abuse: The Case for Deception as Abuse
Recognizing Narcissistic Abuse | The Recovery Expert
My personal experience of it is just ending. I recognized it for a few years before having a final straw moment and have spent the past month extricating myself from it. I feel I am doing well, but am unsure whether I am just in some sort of relief "phase" ("TG, free at last!" sort of thing) or not as "past it" as I might think.
I am currently reading Shahida Arabi's book, "The Smart Girl's Guide to Self-Care". Before that I read, "Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare" and, "POWER Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse", by the same author. I'd recommend them. I do find her a bit repetitive, but the information is good.
For now I'll just recommend the books (Especially The Smart Girl's* Guide and POWER ones), as this post is getting rather long. Specific tips hopefully in subsequent posts...
(Important to remember that it's not a gender thing. Both men and women can be narcissists.)
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Makes me sick to the heart, Oh I feel so tired. And the way the rain comes down hard, that's how I feel inside.
--The Cure