I am sorry for all that you are going through. You mentioned that you have a step son. How old is he and how is he doing through all of this. It can be hard on children. I can relate to some of the things that you have said. My husband and I have been married for over 25 years. We have 2 small children and 2 older children. Our oldest child knows of my situation and tries to be here for me, but that’s really all I have. He like your husband feels like I take everyone else’s side... even our children. He’s jealous of our children. I hope that you can find someone to turn to for support. My support is this site because I can’t keep turning to my oldest child... I don’t want to ruin their mind against him anymore than it already is. It is good that your husband is willing to see a psychiatrist. I wish you the best