The time schedule. How to recover and heal from abusive and unbalanced parental units. (And others in that “family”) How am I to be grateful towards others who also abused me in the name of “helping”. How am I to be grateful towards those who made me into a “bad object” as did my parental units.

I don’t wish to give many details here of the “family” of origin. I can say they treated me far worse than they treated a piece of their furniture. And valued me for less.

As far as being “confronted” in therapy, the senior and very well paid clinician who brutally confronted me (repeatedly) was confronting and judging “coping mechanisms” which were harmless and even positive... to me and my husband. . And which did not harm anyone

Another senior and well paid clinician did the same, but in a very short time. And their words did not “agree” with each other.

Puzzled and sad
A friend of Winnie the Pooh