The shame and blame belong (not to you) but the bullies. Try to put that where it belongs (I know it is difficult). Bullies are insecure and need to put others down in order to feel more important; they never feel good about themselves. My mother was verbally and physically abusive, and then my (ex) husband of 31 years, Except for 3 years in the army I lived with abuse. I did a lot of research and figured out what happened. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life, and I think it is a bookwhich everyone should read. Verbal abuse is rampant on our planet.

Unfortunately, we cannot stop someone from bullying us; all we can do is walk away.It is like someone is throwing stones at you, and we wouldn't allow anyone to do that.