Keep in mind that your current sexuality is a window into your current hopes, desires, fears, and inner struggles. It is YOU being expressed sexually, even though it is not just about sex. This is an opportunity for you to get to know yourself in more depth.

Think of your libido as an amplifier of all that is you right now...showing you things about yourself that you usually don't notice as much. For example, your current loss of control fantasies are very likely pointing out something about how you feel "right now" in other aspects of your life or about something that occurred in your past that requires some kind of closure or healing - most likely regarding control issues or the balance of power within your past and/or current relationships and how this has been affecting you.

The most important thing is to be gentle with yourself and accept yourself as you are right now. Most likely, how you feel sexually right now will change over the years, as you change as a person and evolve through your various experiences, sexual and otherwise.