This time of year is complicated. It is easy to forget about what will make you happy and end up spending the time trying to meet the relatives expectations. My mother just told me in detail what she wants me to do this Christmas. She didn't even ask me what I want to do or what would make me happy. She does this every year and if me or my siblings suggest something else or don't come visit when she wants, she gets offended.

Try to find a balance between doing what you want and also visiting with the families. You deserve to have a good time and not have to meet everyone's strict expectations.