All three (knock wood) are doing well, had good grades in school, good friends, girlfriends, not drugs. So, thankfully, what they witnessed between me and their dad, hasn’t affected them in too much a negative way at this point in their lives.

Maybe your kids were adversely influenced by it, maybe only partly. Don’t blame yourself too much. You don’t know for sure if your relationship caused your son’s problems right now.

Control is a biggie behind every dysfunction. I hear what you are saying about the control your son is trying to assert.

I hope you can get him professional help. I’m not sure what else to suggest. I’m sure I’d keep trying to keep my kid safe as long as I could, too.

Maybe you can grab him off the street and put him into a program? I’m not sure about how any of that works.

Hugs and prayers for you!