Hello eammon: I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral.
You mentioned you're in your 60's. I'm now 70!
I did not have the physiological problem you've had. However I was diagnosed with prostate cancer at around the age of 50 & ended up having that removed. And that, along with other issues I've dealt with, led to impotence. So I know what that's all about.
One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest would be the relationships forum. Here's a link:
https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/
There is also a men-focused support forum. It's not an active forum as you can perhaps imagine. (The guys don't seem to find much to post about there. Actually I don't post there myself. But that's another story.)
However here's a link to that forum as well:
https://forums.psychcentral.com/men-focused-support/
And then here's a link to a PsychCentral Professional article, from PC's archives, that may be of interest on the relationship between sexual dysfunction & anxiety:
The Relationship Between Anxiety Disorders and Sexual Dysfunction | Psych Central Professional
I hope you find PC to be of benefit.