I don't want to be rude, but I've not seen you post anything about your daughter that you like. If I were in her position, I wouldn't want to come around either, because I would feel endlessly judged and criticized.

If there is something about her that you do like and approve of, please tell her instead of focusing on what you disapprove of.

Be it known, I speak as the Christian mother of a genderfluid atheist. I love my oldest child with all my heart, even though I don't like those things. I will do as requested and use gender-neutral pronouns when referring to them, and not try to change them in any way. It isn't my life to live. The only thing I can do is live by my own code of beliefs, not make them do it too.