I wanted to say again thank you many insiders for asking in the other thread that others who believe differently to post about it, that told me you wanted to know both sides of the word and were ready for those of us who are under a different ways/ definitions and such to post to you about it.
I also want to say again like already stated in this thread... you did nothing wrong. you are using the term in the way that you learned back in 1980's those of us who see the word and definitions different have a different understanding of the word.
no one has told you that you are posting wrong or making you feel you did wrong. you asked those of us with a different view to post and I did what you asked. thank you for being open minded and wanting to learn both sides of this word and definition.