I'm sorry you have yet to receive any replies to this post. I don't know that there is much of anything I can offer with regard to it. However, since no one else has replied, I decided I would. Certainly the incredible peace of mind you talk about is something to be treasured. (At least I would think so.) Hold onto it for as long as possible! Beyond that, I think your sexuality-related concerns essentially boil down to communications. Having the ability to be open & honest in a relationship is important. (You probably didn't need me to tell you that.) And, the more you & your hubby can talk about the things you're trying, the greater the likelihood it will all turn out well.

Here are links to 6 articles, from PC's archives, on the subject of communication within relationships, the first by DocJohn:

9 Steps to Better Communication Today

Marriage Communication: How Does It Work?

Communication Pitfalls & Pointers for Couples; Psych Central

Attention Couples: Becoming a Skilled Listener and Effective Speaker

Improving Communication in Relationships

https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-ways...dium=popular17