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Old 12-02-2018, 10:44 AM
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Originally Posted by KnitChick View Post
It hurts, for sure. Does he give cards and gifts to others? My brother and his wife don't reciprocate. But me and my bro have a good relationship for the most part, albeit, a little distant. So I decided this year to send them a card, but not a gift. And be done with it. They have a daughter, whom I do send gifts to, regardless.

At the same time, giving is about giving. Not wanting something in return. But if it feels bad, don't do it. Giving, the entire thing, is supposed to feel good.





My brother and his wife do give others gifts because I see them getting thanked on Facebook. Last year I sent them somewhat expensive gifts and didn't get thanked. IDK. It didn't feel good. I am not out to prove anything like I can give without needing anything in return. I am concerned, however, with what is healthy. I just started looking at this when I was realizing I was sending out but not getting back. Also, at this time I have financial problems.
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