Hello Miss LiliVancouver: I'm sorry I don't think there is any light I can share on what you have experienced. However I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral. I guess all I could suggest is that lovely, compassionate, intelligent people are perhaps at as much risk of being taken in by a narcissist as anyone else would be.

You mentioned having ADHD. There's a forum, here on PC, dedicated to that subject. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/atte...der-add-adhd-/

And then one other forum that may be of interest would be the relationships forum:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.