She stayed in bed all day and when I went in to try to talk to her, she gets pissed off at me for not having the magic words to make it all better. I realize that people take it out on those closest to them, but I'm pretty tired of being that person. She ends up storming out of the house to drive 3 hours back to her place after not eating anything all day. At what point is it enough? This is not a helpless person. She has shown that she has the ability to try and succeed. I can't tell when I'm helping and when I'm enabling and maybe making it worse.