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Old 12-06-2018, 07:54 AM
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Default Re: the hurt doesnt go away!

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Originally Posted by Bill3 View Post
One option for easing the pain is to stop waiting.

The wound does not heal because it is being allowed to stay open.

You are not a baby, it is reasonable to want to know when someone is going to be part of your life, if ever.

If it had been a few years since you were with him, and you were not officially together even at that time, then I question his commitment to you.

Maybe it feels like rejection and abandonment because that is what he in fact has done.



You are evidently not getting any nearer to your goals. How long are you prepared to wait for him?

An option is to block him and look for someone who is willing to be available to you.

That looks like a healthy option to me.
Emma, Bill made a very good post, in my opinion. It resonated with me, anyway. What do you think?

In terms of feeling rejected and abandoned, I wonder if looking at it like it is just not the right fit, will soften the blow for you. It's true, when you think about it. Who wants to be with someone who is 25% in, 75% out? I think he's the wrong fit for you too.

You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you.
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