Does this woman know you struggle with OCD? You most likely need to double check more and she is trying to tell you she is setting limits and you have a difficult time doing that. Did you ever see the movie "As Good as it Gets"? Of course, there is a spectrum with OCD and some individuals do struggle more than others the man in the movie played by Jack Nicholson struggles fairly high on the spectrum. My favorite part of that movie is the dog parts, it's one of the cutest dogs I have ever seen.