Whoever told you that men are not supposed to talk about feelings is full of crap. That is an idea that has been debunked. Talking about your feelings is the only way to deal with them in a healthy way. Maybe if men talked more, there would be fewer acts of senseless violence.

Also, I don't think it is helpful to compare yourself to other people. I do it too, especially as a woman. I have a job and support myself, but I see other women doing that and also raising kids, which seems impossible to me. I have to remind myself that they have their own problems too. No one's life is perfect, no matter how much it may seem like that to those of us on the outside. There is always going to be someone who seems to be doing better than you. But there are also people worse off. I see mentally ill people living on the streets and remind myself that without the support of my family and medication that would be me.