One of my protectors is named Natalie also.
What helped her was to have T see her acting and point out that it was a good thing. And, T wanted her to stick around, and wanted to know why she acted. After that, I was able to start doing the same thing sometimes. Now it is easy for me to recognize and acknowledge her, and I do appreciate her role.
T3 says that protectors are valuable because they have power and because they speak up when things are not ok. She says that every person needs to recognize when things are not ok and to speak up.