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s4ndm4n2006 · Dec 12, 2018 at 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by missunderstood93

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I am soo confused, the other day I went on my laptop and tried to login to my outlook account but my boyfriend of 6 months left his email signed on. When I glanced at his emails I noticed he has been responding to Craigslist adds. I noticed the dates of the when the email where sent and it was at the first 2 months of our relationship. Then I noticed one that was just a few weeks ago.

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The titles of the emails where disturbing to me "hung-28yr-male-MFT", I clicked on one email and noticed there was numerous messages between him and another man. My boyfriend had sent explicit photos of him self to a guy who responded to his Craigslist post.

As I was skimming through the emails I noticed he had met up with this man and was paid to have sex with him. The man also had sent him a message saying "it was cool meeting you last weekend let me know if you're down to meet up again sometime and are you cool with $200 every time?".

I then noticed that there we other messages more recently, my boyfriend gave the guy his new phone number which he got 2 months ago and was looking to meet up with him again.

I have not brought this up with him yet and I do not know how to bring this up, I am so confused and hurt. I really need some advice on what to do, I am not against peoples sexuality or want to make him feel embarrassed about his sexuality. But I do not want to be with someone who is cheating or thinking about cheating on me with anyone (man/woman/or another gender).

How do I bring this up and what should I do about this?

this has nothing at all to do with you making a judgment about his sexuality, it doesn't even need to be the focus of the dialog. The fact that your partner is having casual sex secretly with other people is the problem regardless of the orientation of said encounters.

I would not keep this to yourself for one second. In addition to the idea he's stupid for cheating in the first place it's his own darned fault for leaving the email logged in on your computer so you didn't even have to snoop to find out. You're free to mention what you saw, I think. But you dont' even need to justify yourself. walk away. Just tell him matter-of-fact that he's a cheater and you want someone that's faithful and leave it at that.

I said walk. I meant RUN.