From what you posted, I don't hear she was suggesting that you led him on or was exaggerating but it is understandable that you feel that way. Do you think it might be because you tend to feel you have inappropriate desires/fantasies yourself (what you shared on other threads)?

I personally don't like how this T pushes things that she cannot possibly know... before it was about your mom and now about your dad and claiming that you dissociated while he did things. That is what would make me angry, all these assumptions and making them sound like facts.