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Default Re: What do you say when...?

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Originally Posted by Alden View Post
I can see how it is inevitable that people are going to look at DID as an excuse, etc..., but I'm growing very weary of trying to figure out how to deal with people who refuse to accept that I can't control it.


This week I had a therapist tells me, "You have to be more aware of your amnesia of your amnesia." I don't even understand that, other than one of the most moronic things I have ever heard. How do you reply to that?



I have a therapist who has told me that I have to record sessions so that when I get assignments I can't say that I don't remember them because, well, I don't - I must have been dissociating. So, I'm supposed to remember what I didn't remember so I remember to listen to the recording?


I get scoffed at any time I don't remember something. There is no consideration for my disorder. I certainly don't do it on purpose and I don't remember doing it. I always take responsibility for anything I said during those times, but I'm get so tired of being blamed for malicious intent when ever I have amnesia for an event.


How do you get people to understand that you don't do it on purpose, it isn't a convenient excuse, and that I have an actual disorder?


Frankly, I'm at a loss and want to tell them to shove their head up their **** orifice.



Have you found anything that works for you?
Finding a new therapist may be difficult, scary or expensive, but you absolutely deserve a new one! Nobody in such a position should be saying these things to you - if they do, then they don't understand DID at all. I've had dismissive and gaslighting therapists before, and it makes me angry to think of how I was taken advantage of by them - as well as them taking my limited money too. All of you deserves better. I hope you can find one that treats you with respect.
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