it's my opinion that learning how to love must precede learning how to love oneself. if a person feels no love at all, then find something that engenders at least a tiny bit of affection, and focus on that feeling. extend it to something else, or expand it to be larger, stronger.

many people think that change is a huge, one-time deal. it's not. it's little by little, bit by bit, adding up. and remember, the mind magnifies what it's focused upon; so try to turn away from those things you don't want to feel and do and hold the good thought~!

here's a little recipe for change that i was given, and it's worked for me:

1) DECIDE to change;
2) Decide WHAT to change;
3) CHANGE as much as you can every chance you get;
4) PRAISE yourself for every bit of change you make~!! (MOST important~!)