Hello Werewoman, I am so sorry for your pain and abuse and trauma. You deserved dignity, and peace, and love. Are you saying that your husband wants to separate or am I misunderstanding you?

May I ask what you mean by MI?

May I say something about your mother? I think she is likely disturbed. I don't think she can be operating from a rational or healthy mind. That does NOT mean that her choices are okay...it is NOT a justification or rationalization. I just mean that if she's operating from a completely distorted and dysfunctional place in her mind, I am not sure that she will be open to any logic or feedback from you. Her actions, in addition to the abuse you endured, must be deeply hurtful to you and also just plain bizarre.

I am just wondering what is best for you? Do you think that pursuing your abuser will bring you any peace or were you referring to your mother as the "SOB"...going after her. Did you ever try talking to a therapist with experience in sexual abuse?

I wish you peace and healing energy and safe love.