I went no-contact with my mother. Felt tons of guilt (and still feel some), especially since she likes to play the victim. Her whole side of the family basically sides with her, since it's all one big messed up system. I've tried to explain myself to other family many many times, but at a certain point I had to cut them out too. I was tired of having people make me feel like I was the bad person. My guilt hasn't gone away, but it's definitely lessened over time, especially the less involved I am in all the familial "drama."