I love my hubby... but... knowing what I know now... I would not get involved with someone with kids if I could avoid it. That’s always my advice to people now. It was a hellish nightmare for years. I was very involved and really had my heart into doing the right thing. Read the book on step-mothers called Stepmonster. Also, I recommend that you find a support group online for step-parenting. Things will be very different after marriage versus while you are dating.