Poohbah
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Location: usa
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Dec 30, 2018 at 05:31 PM
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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
What is a "genuine" hug though? I don't think such a thing exists.
According to my experience, even a significant other hugging or cuddling with you typically does so with a hidden motive. Said motive could be wanting a favor or to make up for an argument or another reason entirely.
At least hiring somebody to fill your needs is predictable and gives you a degree of control. If the person judges you than you can simply fire them and move on. If a SO judges you than you can't do anything about it except argue with them or leave them which only opens you up to being hurt further.
Sorry, I just don't believe that unconditional love exists. The only being that can come close to loving a human unconditionally is a dog.
So yeah, as soon as I can afford to, I plan on hiring a professional cuddler quite liberally. I should be able to make decent enough money within the next year if I don't screw anything else up so when that happens, I'll gladly pay an extra several hundred or more dollars a month to have my needs met in a way that doesn't put me at risk of being hurt further.
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i hope that you will feel a genuine hug one day. i tend to give them when i meet someone who has suffered a loss because i have been there and can feel their pain.
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