Hello kim: I believe this is your first post here on PC. So.. welcome to Psych Central.

I'm sorry you are struggling with this. Social anxiety has been a problem for me over the years as well. I don't know as I have any particular suggestions for you for how to approach this. However here are links to 10 articles, from Psych Central's archives, 6 that offer suggestions for dealing with social anxiety plus 4 that talk about developing self-compassion & accepting / liking yourself more:

Social Anxiety Overview

6 Ways to Overcome Social Anxiety

7 Ways to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety

How to Be Less Self-Conscious

Social Anxiety: The Pervasive Creature in your Mind

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2...ocial-anxiety/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/cultiv...lf-compassion/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/every...cept-yourself/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/8-step...yourself-more/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...yourself-more/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.