Thanks for the input. He is afraid I will tell my parents or his son. We had a long talk last night. I told him how proud of him I am for telling me right away (he also gave me to two baggies he didnt use (he bought 3, used only 1) to flush. I dont preach perfection because we would all fail miserably everyday. I told him that I'm here to walk with him on whatever path life takes us, but that I also have needs. Since he breached my trust by using again, it's a setback and he is going to have to reearn my trust. He told me that I can hold his money for him if that would be helpful to me, but I dont want to do that bc I want him to own his recovery and not have it based on me policing him..