I agree. For a long time I've been putting up with it because I know that she has an illness. But it always feels like she makes a mess of things and then blames me for the result. This latest incident for example, she has been saying how I suck for not "supporting" her through Christmas. For a start, I don't really know what that means, although I suspect she means financially? And secondly, how could I when she'd dumped me, wouldn't talk to me, and was calling me a bastard to anyone willing to listen.