My son is a young adult still in college and we have a good relationship. We have been dealing with something traumatic in that he had a stroke in Nov. The scariest thing I have ever seen. We got him to the ER in 10 minutes so the damage is minimal. It turned out he had a hole in his heart that was repaired. He is in OT and speech now and due to make a full recovery and go back to school, living in his apartment soon. My middle daughter turned 18 last February and by March she had run away and shacked up with some wild girls and their mom where drugs and alcohol were allowed. Needless to say she showed up on Mother's day and we took her to the hospital where she went inpatient and then rehab. Now she is living in sober housing barely able to make it. She missed prom and graduation although the school let her finish her work and graduate in December. I can feel the regret she lives with each day, knowing she only has herself to blame.