Honestly - without getting into a huge explanation I will just say the reason we are together again is a God thing. Neither of us intended nor wanted it - we were both in process of moving to different places (and were already separated phtsically and divorced) but got slammed back together (as in living conditions) just before we moved and put in a position where it needed to be long term. During that time we learned to get along, regained the love, and eventually remarried. We only really have problems when one brings up the past .. but there has never been any abuse since I moved back.