When we have a loss we have to work thru it, eg grieve it. There are 5 stages of grief and this takes time. My therapist often mentions that borderlines have a particularly rough time with situations that feel like abandonment. So yr going to need to be very kind to yrself in order to heal. Pamper yrself w feel good experiences and things u don’t usually treat yrself to. I couldn’t believe how great even a really good facial feels, or a massage or a mani pedi. Do some regular vigorous exercise. If one friend doesn’t listen, try other people. You’ll get thru this. You have wonderful times ahead w other friends once u heal.
My friend is going back to Iraq on Monday. He has a dangerous job there. He already has ptsd. He is grumpy and terse. I can’t let my own fear and pain ruin our friendship by overreacting to everything.