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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker
I am angry with myself that I didn’t do anything about my ex earlier and leave, but I was terrified and somehow he convinced me that I could not survive without him. Maybe the girls wouldn’t have had these struggles if I had.
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BMC you did the best that you could at the time.If you could have done better you would have done better. It might be easy for some people to say "why doesn't she just leave?" But leaving an abusive relationship is never easy. It's not the same thing, but the very first guy I was totally in love with treated me badly. We were very up and down and he'd tell me horrible things but I kept going back again and again and again. Growing up I never learnt what a healthy relationship looked like and I believed that it wasn't the real him, and that he was better than that.
It takes courage to leave which you did and your girls will know the truth and see how strong their mother was.