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Old 01-21-2019, 09:34 PM
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Default Re: What if one cannot conceptualize "soothing"?

This is an interesting question. I too suffer from an attachment disorder (Iím anxious attached). It took me a very long time to learn some self-soothing techniques and Iím still learning, because I prefer to pop a pill to suppress the anxiety and other feels that come up.

I think the first and most obvious step is to work with a therapist who specializes in attachment and learn some self-soothing techniques. Things I do include sitting in front of the fireplace (even in the summer. - I will turn it on and sit in front of it), go to Starbucks and get a latte, snuggle with one of my animals, have a nap (this helps me both self-soothe and avoid negative feelings), go for a massage or hair appt, text my therapist or try to book an extra session.

As a single person in my mid-40s who has never been in a relationship, I donít know what it would be like to have someone else soothe me. That concept is completely foreign to me.
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