Recluse, is a good word for me, too. I also call myself the hermit. I am sorry, I don't have any advice for you. I just wanted to say that I can relate. I avoid mingling with people. I stay in my apartment most of the days, and not by choice. I am unemployed, so, for me it's everyday. I also had a rough childhood by abusive parents, and I think all my social anxiety problems stem from the fact that my father hasn't sparred a chance not to yell and make negative comments about what I said and did. I have many issues to deal with the rest of my life. I hope you can find your way out of this.