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Default Jan 26, 2019 at 04:52 AM
 
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Originally Posted by healingme4me View Post
There's this expression that I've heard from certain individuals during times of grief that came to mind regarding your looking for reassurance and being told everything is going to be ok.

It was something along the lines of "I'm not going to lie to you and tell you everything is going to be ok, because everything is not ok. There's going to be good days and some really dark and sad days. It's going to hurt. I will tell you, that you'll survive. That's what survivors do. And some day, you'll realize that the pain is less intense. And that you did survive."
Healing4Me: what you wrote felt intuitively right. There is a sense of loss involved. BUT the problem (thank goodness) is more a puzzle about building an emotional awareness that I haven't been trained for. It's like building a skill from total zero. I've had it before, and no one understands while you are going through it because I don't understand either - except the level of gentle attentiveness that is all I can bring.

It seems to be a PTSD thing.
thanks for your companionship along the road!
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