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LucyD · Jan 26, 2019 at 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

I used to carry a lot of resentments which led to anger. I learned (through sobriety) to make amends for my part, and let go of the anger-especially if it had any sort of control over me or if it took up too much space in my head. For me it involved some writing and meditation but anyone can do this, it doesnt have to be a 12 step thing. I have written letters before and then burned them. I just do not believe in giving power to things I cant control-especially people in my life. If they are toxic I remove them from my life, if I have to deal with them I come to a place of peace and know that I did what I have to do and they are the ones responsible for their own feelings or behavior. I hope I do not sound preachy. I am not trying to sound like that.

I, too, have written letters to those I felt hurt by and sent some of them out. It was what I did and the way it was, not going to beat myself up for it. I ripped a lot of the letters up, too. I read one at someone's grave, too. I have made many amends and people still didn't forgive me. I guess that's a problem with them and not me. I am not an ax murderer as some of them acted like. I find it hard to deal with some people and do get away from them if I feel too uncomfortable with them.