there are tons of folks on here who have gone back to poor relationships...sometimes a bad one is easier and "safer" then a new one. is it the right or best thing? no. but it happens, all the time. honestly being labeled stupid by others here who may or may not have made similar choices probably isn't the most helpful. to me what would be a more helpful choice would be commending the poster for recognizing her choice for not returning into that relationship and recognizing it as an unhealthy one.

we can't make choices for others..or know what factors they brought into their decision making. it's like a drunk returning to alcohol. they know it's wrong for them but in times of stress it might be their choice to return to drinking. plently of women (and men) return to unsafe relationships because that is what they are familiar with...to them in a way, it is safe. clearly to us it might not be, but that is not OUR call.

anyway, my call would be to assist the poster with recognizing her decisions , not her families...because in the end that is what really matters.