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Smile Jan 29, 2019 at 05:13 PM
 
You may have noticed I replied to your post in the new members introductions forum a few minutes ago. Perhaps what you posted about in that thread is related to the concerns you've posted about in this one? (Just a thought…)

From my perspective, the bottom line here is that you can't force your wife to do something she doesn't want to do. (At least I never have any luck with that.) Yes she may well be struggling with depression. I don't know as there is any particular way for you to "tell" if she's depressed & needs professional help beyond having observed that she's spending all of her time in bed with her phone & Kindle. Beyond that, it would be up to a mental health professional to make that determination I would presume. (By the way, I spend probably more time than I should sitting on our couch in front of our fireplace replying to posts here on PC.)

My personal opinion is that, ultimately, what's important here may be for you to figure out what you need to do in order to take care of yourself given the situation you & you wife are in. That might include spending some time with a counselor or mental health therapist yourself. Here are links to a selection of 13 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may help you to gain some perspective regarding the situation you are in along with some ideas on how to address it. The first 3 articles are by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D.:

You Can Only Change Yourself

Denial is a Powerful Impediment to Treatment

How Can I Help Someone in My Life Who's Depressed?

Recognizing Depression in Your Partner

9 Ways to Help a Friend or Family Member With Depression

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/famil...or-depression/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-way...-denial/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...essional-help/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/helpin...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-de...at-you-can-do/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-ways...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/lib/sufferi...pressed/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...ge-and-thrive/

My best wishes to you both...

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